Sometimes people react to things in ways that I’m not used to, and I get annoyed.  Eventually I realized these are nuances I should appreciate; who wants to interact with a whole world of clones that act the same way?  I mean, unless they’re really annoying.  But we as humans are given the ability to adapt to various environments, and the culture that arises from a given group of people is a kind of environment that we should be able to adjust ourselves to evolve in, and that culture encompasses their type of behaviour.  I suppose we’re not always successful in adapting, but we should still try.  Being successful doesn’t mean that we adopt their ways of behaviour and thinking, but that we are able to accept it and collaborate with them amiably without losing ourselves.  Now ‘losing ourselves’ doesn’t necessarily mean ‘changing ourselves’ — if we find other ways of thinking and behaving that are superior to ours, it only makes sense to embrace them.  I really mean ‘losing ourselves’ by the way of us pretending to agree with the values and preferences of others when deep down we don’t, thereby deceiving others and sometimes ourselves.  So the adaptive skill is what I wish to attain; most of the time I simply get visibly annoyed at others and I’m starting to annoy myself by doing so.